In an earlier post within our 1/2 marathon blog challenge with CMBA, we discussed some simple ways for the hubby to bless his wife during this crazy and challenging yet beautiful season of new parenthood. But ladies, we didn’t want to forget you! Between feedings and sopping up spit-up and changing dirty diapers, there are ways we can bless the hubby. …easy ways. I promise.
One of the biggest challenges of having little ones is the amount of mental energy they consume. I mean, let’s face it; we all know they zap our brain cells. I’m just hoping my brain will replace those cells so I can one day not need my calculator to figure out how many ounces 8 and 8 are…yes, folks, it can be that bad. When I’m not actually attending the needs of the babies, I’m mentally making a check-list of things I need to look up online for them. Or read in this book. Or ask that friend. Or pick up at the store. Or make that doctor’s appointment. It’s never ending. And time flows from one day to the next. I only know it’s the end of the weekend because my hubby goes back to work. (Ok, so it’s a little easier with technology, but still. You get my drift.)
Since so much of my day is spent physically caring for the babies, another good-sized chunk is spent physically caring for the random other needs of running a family and household. And so a small portion is left over for caring for my poor husband. How many times have I looked at the clock at 5pm and realized I have no idea what to do for dinner?! It’s not as if I’ve whiled away the day – I have done laundry and fed babies and prepared baby food and made a grocery list and changed dirty diapers, broken up fights and kissed booboos. But the needs of my hubby often become “after thoughts.” Prior to babies, I hoped he would notice how I made this or that meal with something he liked. Post babies, I hope he doesn’t notice we’re having spaghetti. Again.
Thinking through how I can continue to seek to be a blessing to him can seem overwhelming. It’s super difficult to get out of the house (and besides, the energy is very rarely worth it). And I often have few moments where an idea has time to develop into anything further before I’m interrupted. But the truth is, I can do it. I need to do it. Nothing has to be fancy, and part of the blessing comes from the effort. One of my favorites is contacting one of his co-workers and getting them to pick up a surprise Starbucks during their afternoon run. If I’m feeling extra creative, I’ll mail a card to the office so they can give it to him with the coffee. (Thank goodness for that stash of cards I bought years ago!!!) You could take care of some task at home and let him stumble upon the fact that you’ve already taken care of it (David does the coffee every night – are you seeing a theme here? – and loves to find that I’ve already prepped the coffee.) Make a special treat. David comes home ready to eat but because of the babies’ schedule, we prefer to wait till they’ve gone to bed to eat unhurriedly. So if I have actually thrown stuff in the bread machine on time, it’s torture for him to smell the bread baking. Muahaha. Haha. Hahahaha. =) Send him an email (text/phone call/card, etc) letting him know how you just prayed for him and what you’re asking the Lord for him today. Surprise him with a guy’s night out. (Just don’t forget that you have planned for a friend to come pick him up to hang out until said friend comes walking in the garage. Yeah.) Etc.
These are a few of the things I’ve managed during the past year and a half. Not much. Super cheap. And not as often as I would like to make the effort (is it really effort when it comes to loving the one we love?!). I really want to grow in the frequency and creativity. Got any suggestions for me? Husbands, what are some of your favorites?
Tomorrow we’ll be sharing one of my all-time preferred ways to make Mama happy. This one wins him major points. Every time. Anyone care to guess?